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Why does he pull away after being vulnerable?

Closeness can feel exposing, but distance has more than one explanation. Ask what changed without diagnosing him or accepting endless withdrawal.

♂ His sideMake room for the awkward morning after an honest conversation.
♀ Her sideNotice the whiplash.
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